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Co-Parenting with an Ex

co-parenting, child of divorce, children of divorce, life after divorce, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois family law attorneyDivorce means the end of a marriage. But for couples who have children, the end of the marriage doesn’t mean the end of contact and communicating. It can be difficult navigating the waters of co-parenting, especially if the couple has gone through a stormy divorce.

An article in the Huffington Post offers tips, compiled by legal and psychological experts, which can help parents avoid situations which could have negative impacts on their children.

One of the dangers that divorced parents face is struggling with the same communication problems they may have had when married. It’s also critical to not carry whatever acrimony may exists from the divorce into your roles as co-parents.

Some experts recommend treating your co-parenting partnership as a business relationship and not a personal one, keeping emotions out of it and focusing on the ‘business’ at hand – raising your children.

It’s important to establish guidelines between you and your ex about how much contact the two of you need to have. Plan a consistent schedule of phone calls or email exchanges. Decide ahead of time which parent is responsible for what and when, such as custody exchange transportation or transportation for the children’s extra-curricular activities, etc.  But it’s also important to remain flexible. Schedule conflicts come up at any given time for everyone so it’s important for both parties to be reasonable when this happens.

If a conflict does come up, discuss it right away. Trying to ignore it, only to have it simmer under the surface can end up that conflict growing into a much bigger problem that can derail the co-parenting relationship.

There are situations where no matter how co-operative one parent is, the other parent is just too angry or hostile to work together. In those situations, it’s better to limit the ways in which the two communicate in order to avoid confrontations and arguments. Texting and email works much better than phone calls or in person discussions.

Co-parents working together make for a much happier and healthier situation for everyone, especially their children. Contact the Law Offices of Van A. Schwab today for assistance in your divorce.

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