Arnold Schwarzenegger's recent publication of his memoir and interview on "60 Minutes" highlights a very common feature of many marriages -- secrecy. Schwarzenegger's recent divorce has become public fodder, but the breakdown of his marriage was shrouded in lies and secrets, according to the former California governor. There is a lesson here for other couples divorcing due to secrets, adultery and other problems. When couples are struggling with the emotional issues surrounding divorces, divorce mediation is one option for couples to deal with the "dirty laundry" without a long and drawn-out court battle.While not every divorce is acrimonious, the chances that the divorce will take an ugly turn rise significantly when one partner or the other has been cheating or significantly misled the spouse about financial and other important matters.
For years, courts would not let those who were mentally disabled file for divorce. Mentally disabled in this respect refers to a wide spectrum of people, from people who have severe brain damage to those suffering from diseases such as Alzheimer's. Guardians of the mentally impaired were also banned from filing for divorce on behalf of these people. Thanks to a recent Illinois Supreme Court ruling, however, that has now changed.
One of the most taxing aspects about a divorce is the finances. The income between the couple remains the same; however, there are now two separate households to support. When there are children involved, it can make things even more difficult. Parents need to consider the needs of the children and put children first. When possible, this can come in the form of making agreements and avoiding going back and forth in court.
While alimony is often a controversial topic, it is an especially important consideration when a spousal partner has not worked during the marriage. In a recent case, a woman whose husband cut her off financially and demanded she get a job asked for a divorce as a result.Her story is similar to many stay-at-home parents'. The woman had a college degree but had not worked for 27 years. Her husband "suggested" that she get a job although the couple was financially solvent. Finally, he began insisting, stating that he would no longer give her an "allowance." The wife sought a job, but she could find only menial work. After two weeks, she told her husband she wanted a divorce and began proceedings with a lawyer.