The Illinois Department of Public Health reports that there were over 30,000 divorces statewide in 2011, so many Illinois residents can certainly sympathize with the difficulties these cases generate. During a divorce proceeding, both parties are often required to address difficult questions regarding alimony modification, asset division and other important issues. Since all of them are so vital to someone's well-being, they can be extremely difficult to resolve. A post-divorce coach shed some light on how she overcame a troubled divorce proceeding.
She stated that her former spouse asked that she cover his living expenses while he returned to school for two years. The author initially rejected his idea entirely because she believed that he was perfectly capable of supporting himself without her. The dispute became very bitter until a friend recommended that she agree to the financial support for the sake of her emotional welfare. She ultimately concurred.
She decided to do what made her happiest without regard to whether she had an actual legal obligation to do so. This is an important point for any divorce settlement. Not all cases end in alimony settlements: Spousal living standards, marriage duration and other considerations determine how to handle maintenance. In this case, her ability to approach the issue objectively led to a satisfying conclusion for both sides.
Determining spousal maintenance during a divorce involves many legal complications. Particularly after a long marriage, it is not always clear what, if anything, one spouse owes the other. As a result, many divorcing couples may benefit the services of an attorney to help them reach a settlement that satisfies both parties.
Source: Huffington Post, "Do You Want To Be Right Or Do You Want To Be Happy?", Debbi Dickinson, June 18, 2013